Becoming the Enchantress

Reclaiming beauty, pleasure, and creative power.

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A few months ago, I was listening to a podcast where the host suggested that if a woman chooses to have children or get married, she should go all in on the archetypes of Mother and Wife. Her point was that women have strayed too far from traditional feminine roles—and that fulfillment lies in fully embodying these identities, particularly if we’ve chosen marriage and motherhood.

I understood her argument. I don’t believe the roles of Mother and Wife get nearly as much respect as they deserve. I also suspect that much of women’s dissatisfaction, anxiety, and exhaustion stems from not having the opportunity to inhabit these roles fully.

I say this from personal experience. In my first marriage, I was the sole earner when my kids were young, so most of my time was spent working a corporate job that paid well but was a bit uninspiring. I constantly felt spread too thin and resentful. (More on that in another post.)

Interestingly, the podcast host hadn’t fully embodied those roles either. So perhaps we are both waxing poetic about what was lost.

Still, as I listened, I couldn’t help but wonder: What now? What happens when the kids are older? Or if you never had them? Or if you’re not partnered? What if the domestic arts don’t call to you the way creative fire does? (Truth be told, I show neither aptitude nor affinity for domesticity.)

What then is the feminine archetype to go “all in” on?

Many women in my community have raised children, supported partners, and now find themselves asking—what’s next? They’re not quite ready to claim the Crone, yet they’ve outgrown the demands of the Mother. Others may be divorced, never married, childfree, or simply ready to be the main character in their own lives.

They’re standing in that liminal space: no longer who they were, not yet who they are becoming.

Welcome to the realm of the Enchantress.

The Enchantress

The Enchantress is the archetype that holds the key to what so many women are yearning for: beauty, pleasure, creativity, connection to nature, and the divine.

She is magnetic, radiant, and creative—comfortable in her own skin and confident in her place in the world. She knows there’s more to life than meets the eye. The Enchantress doesn’t believe life is happening to her. She knows it’s happening with her and for her. So she creates her reality moment by moment—with her thoughts, words, feelings, and actions.

She shifts the energy of a room with her presence. She lights candles before dinner, wears red lipstick just for herself, and sings her favorite song while tending her garden. She isn’t driven by productivity hacks or external measures of success. She’s here to weave magic into the mundane. To make beauty for beauty’s sake. To spark joy simply because joy is worth sparking.

She is a woman who knows how to wield her power.

Unlike the Mother, whose energy flows outward in service to others, or the Crone, whose wisdom turns inward, the Enchantress is both: deeply connected to her inner world and fully engaged with the world around her. She weaves a living tapestry between the sacred and the everyday.

You won’t catch the Enchantress lamenting the latest grievance or waiting for someone else to make life better—she’s too busy creating her own magical reality.

The Enchantress in My Life

I love working with the Enchantress because she is empowered and creative. She doesn’t wait for external factors to align. She trusts in her ability to create magic through ritual, imagination, and aligned action.

I’ll be 50 this summer, and even though I’m crossing the threshold of my childbearing years, I feel like a creative force to be reckoned with. Whether I’m diving into my next project (yes, my first Romantasy novel!), planting my herb garden, or guiding my teenagers into adulthood, I approach it all with curiosity, optimism, and a little bit of fairy dust.

I no longer seek to figure out or even discuss “what’s wrong.” I’m far more interested in exploring what’s possible.

A Word About Archetypes

Archetypes are universal energies or patterns of behavior. They reside in the collective unconscious and are autonomous, meaning they possess their own motivations and expressions.

Carl Jung, the Swiss psychoanalyst who introduced this concept, admitted he didn’t know exactly where they came from. Archetypes aren’t something we learn—they’re something we’re born with. They don’t live in the mind. They dwell in the psyche, in the soul.

“The world of gods and spirits is truly nothing but the collective unconscious within me.” — Carl Jung

And here’s the good news: they’re within you too!

You can’t force an archetype, but you can invoke it.

How? First, by learning its qualities and characteristics. Then, by looking to the goddess figures who personify that energy. The goddesses serve as guides, embodied myths who can help us bring the archetype to life.

Hathor — The Goddess of Delights

To get a feel for the Enchantress archetype, let’s look at Hathor, the Egyptian goddess of love, beauty, and pleasure.

Hathor was one of the most beloved deities in Egyptian mythology. She was worshipped for over 3,000 years and is often referred to as the Goddess of Delight.

She spent her days dancing with her sister goddesses, listening to music, eating fine food, making love, and enjoying life’s sensual pleasures. She’s my kind of goddess!

Hathor wore flowing gowns, adorned herself with gold jewelry, and lined her eyes with kohl. In Ancient Egypt, dance was a form of worship, and Hathor was the goddess who presided over it all.

Hathor is the divine blueprint for the Enchantress—a woman who delights in her body, her senses, and the sacred magic of everyday life. She teaches us that joy, beauty, and sensuality aren’t indulgent extras — they’re portals to the Divine.

Embodying the Enchantress

So how do you begin to embody this energy in your own life?

Start by invoking your inner Hathor. Prioritize pleasure. Make beauty. Align yourself with the divine life force that pulses within and around you.

Let yourself reflect:

• What area of my life is craving enchantment?

• What does beauty mean to me?

• What magic am I here to wield?

• What do I want to create?

• Who do I want to become?

You are not an idle bystander in this life. You are the energy that brings possibility into form. That’s enchantment!

Want to Invoke Your Inner Enchantress?

If the Enchantress is calling to you, you’re in luck. I’m hosting a free live workshop: Four Rituals to Invoke Your Inner Enchantress.

You’ll learn practical ways to embody this archetype and create a life infused with creativity, beauty, and a little bit of magic.

When you show up live, you’ll also receive a 2025 Lunar Calendar and a Wheel of the Year Calendar, outlining the eight seasonal celebrations.

Don’t worry if you don’t know what those are or how to use them—I’ll walk you through everything inside the workshop.

→ Save your spot here.